April 12, 2011

I Spent The Night

I spent the night with the new guy in my life.

His dad was working out of town and his mom had to go help her mother at the Mayo clinic.

Oh my gosh!

I forgot how tired tired really is.

What it feels like to get sporadic sleep. 
And only a little at that.

How I have to "time" my shower.
Either having company join me or' listening' while rushing through, before he wakes up.
And how strategic, completing my make-up regimen can be.
(Remembering I only have mascara on one eye because I stopped to feed him...) 

(Rereading this up to this point, I see that it could be misunderstood to be a needy man I am posting about-but it's not, it's a baby!)  (Go back and try reading it that way :).

It is times and experiences like this that make me look back and wonder how I did it with 5 children.
Granted some things were sacrificed.
But I don't know how I didn't just find a horse or large dog and ride off into the sunset....

It makes me feel sorrow for the things I said to Reyna.
The unrealistic expectations I had of her, followed by reprimanding and guilt because they weren't met.
It makes me want to give her a hug and words of praise and encouragement for ALL that goes into parenting.
For how difficult and sometimes unrelenting it can be.

It is easy for me to look back now and have a new revised plan (until I am  personally put back in a similar situation.)
It is often tempting to beat myself up in the arrears for "things I should have done different".
This humble pie (of reliving it) balances my diet now and then as I realize the truths- that I did what I could at the time.

If there are mothers or fathers reading this who are feeling like "you aren't doing enough", STOP IT! (No, keep reading..)

You can never "parent enough" because what we want, is what is best for our children, and thus we require perfection -  from ourselves.
It will never happen.  (If you are perfect, this is not the blogspot place for you. No, you do not belong in the zoo. The circus is the place for you-Put Me In the Zoo.)

And besides that, even if by some miraculous chance you were born perfect,  FYI the world isn't.

Go easy parents.....You never fail as a parent as long as you keep trying and love your children!


  1. I had to reread your post a couple times to get what you're talking about. It's amazing how quickly we forget what its like to be around a newborn. The first time that I got to sleep for 4 hours, I felt completely rested. LOL!

  2. Thanks for this! It is SO easy to let guilt take over! And, oh, the pressure of being a "perfect" parent! My biggest challenge these days, like you were talking about, is lack of sleep. I get so CRANKY and short w/my girls if I'm tired, enter:GUILT! This post is a great reminder to cut ourselves a little slack. Thanks!!!!!

  3. This is wonderful, Reyna. I am so stinkin' hard on myself and I feel like I never "parent enough" or parent correctly. Thank goodness they have a perfect heavenly Father.

  4. We try so hard and still fall so short of how we WISH we could be!


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