Dear Prince Charming,

Dear Prince Charming,
Where are you?!!!  
I am still waiting......

Not aging so gracefully,
Cinderella 

Look closely.  See it?  It's Cinderella's 21st century "glass slipper"!!   Sure it looks like a stiletto but times and fashion have changed ?!

Her shoe is hooked onto a stop sign in my neighborhood. That is why she wrote this letter. 
Because Prince Charming hasn't even picked her shoe up, let alone even begun to look for her!! 

OK, we have to talk. 
How many of us are waiting or have waited for Prince Charming and nothing?
We went to the ball, danced all night (or almost), heard and believed all these promises about loving us, and always being there and never letting us go, and wanting to spend the rest of our lives together and poof.  
All gone in the chime of a bell (or text or some other form of message).  (Or nothing at all).

In us trying to do the right thing and rushing to get back home (or to some of our other responsibilities in life we have), we lost our footing shoe.
We were just trying to find balance.
And yet now here we are all alone.
We have not heard anything from the Prince with all that charm!  
(Who named that guy anyway?)

Where is he?  
Where are you?!

So how long has it been?
How long have we been waiting?
How long do we intend to wait?

Maybe when the Bible talked about being patient this is not one of the times it was talking about.

People.  Go back and get your "Slipper" yourself or go get a new pair, but do not use the excuse of not having it all, hold you back from going on with your lives!

If he hasn't come through, he probably isn't.
And if his memory was clouded (for whatever reason) and he can't remember what street you were on, he can get out his GPS.
If he really wants to find you, he will.
Quit making excuses for him!

Until he does come back (if that is in his plan), let go of the lost possession.
Unless you are the Old Woman with all those children who serve broth without any bread and actually needs her shoe to go home to, move on.

Do not let someone else hold you up at the stop sign!

In the meantime.
I hope you dance....



"Love cannot be found where it doesn't exist.  There's a difference between being patient with someone and wasting your time." ~Unknown Author



 
And nope,that is not my shoe-although I have been known for waiting....

Life's Blind Spots

On my way to work this morning at the intersection where I was stopped, I saw a man in the turn-lane to my right pushing his car out of the way.

Usually when I see this situation someone will come to the persons' aid and offer assistance.

Today that did not happen.


Because he alone, was trying to steer and push at the same time, it was taking quite awhile for him to get out of the road.


The vehicles behind the big 4x4 truck (which was next in line behind the stalled car) started honking their horns.  First one , then others followed and with more frequency.

Of course my vision was clear as I could see the whole situation.
I could see what the other drivers with blocked information could not see.

First they did not understand what the truck driver knew and were letting him know they were not happy he was not moving.
Second they could not see that there was a man in distress doing the best he could to get out of the middle of the road.
Thus causing them to act in an irate and judgmental way.


As I sat there I contemplated several things.
If I were in their shoes vehicles:

1.  Would I have just sat quietly like the truck driver did, not reacting to others ignorance?


2.  Would I be like these reactive, impatient drivers pushing down on my horn, letting it get the best worst of me?


3.  How would I feel if I were this man with a disabled car, holding up traffic at a busy intersection knowing that there were irate people?  

4.  Would I have been able to stay focused on what was most important (moving my car) without showing my anger and helplessness with inappropriate words or actions?


5. Could and would I empathize with this man if I had been able to see the whole picture - knowing that I do not know of any person who intentionally breaks down in the middle of the road?


6. Today I had full understanding - will I remember next time when I do not, to trust that the traffic is stopped for a reason (that I might not understand) before lashing out because I am frustrated?

Most of us will have been in a situation similar to this, if not in traffic in another circumstance.

In that situation what was our personal role?
Are we proud of how we reacted?
Did we learn a lesson once we got all the facts?
Did others react differently to us once they had more facts?

Life is full of chances to learn-even at the intersections of our lives. 

"The test of courage comes when we are in the minority.  The test of tolerance comes when we are in the majority."  ~Ralph W. Sockman